I was working with a family recently, and the dad said:

“I’ve tried everything. We’ve taken away his phone, grounded him, offered money, extra privileges… nothing works. He just doesn’t care.”

And the mom added:

“It’s like we’re either constantly threatening consequences or trying to bribe him…

“Why won’t my teen take initiative?” 

Why do they:

• not start tasks
• not follow through
• not take responsibility
• not do things unless you’re constantly reminding them

And underneath that frustration… is a deeper fear:

“How will they ever function as an adult if they can’t even get started?” ...